Sadly, I am not actually surprised that misogynists still exist. They're out there, and I sadly cannot get rid of them all on my own. It'd be nice if all men were great, but I know they're not so finding out about shit is not surprising. Sad, but not a shocker. What continues to surprise me is that these "men" actually exist in my life.
Luckily I'm in a relationship where I feel like an equal. When I have an opinion I let it be known. If John is acting stupid, I tell him. We both want me to have a successful career. Sure, I do cook and clean, sometimes I cook something just for him. Or I make his coffee in the morning. But guess what, he does those things too! And actually, most of the time we cook together. Also, John hates when I do his laundry. He is actually in capable of letting me fold laundry on my own. Even if he's doing dishes, he'll stop, come fold, then go back to the dishes.
These ideas on household chores are not the only way misogyny can exist, and I don't want to dismiss some more serious ways men ridicule women. They're just feeling like the most relevant right now. Why some people think women should be "barefoot and pregnant" is something I'll never understand.
But really, how'd this enter my life? I think I surround myself with people who (mostly) see the world the way I do...or at least we have some common ground. And yet there's a guy who I will never get along with because of the way he views women.
He calls women "chicks" ALL the time.
He asked me to make him a sandwich.
When I said something to John (I don't even remember what) that he saw as too powerful, he told John that he needed to get his balls back. I apparently have them tucked away in a closet.
When his daughter hit her head, he continued to sit there and went "Wife, Wife, Wife, Wife can you take care of this?" Instead of taking care of her himself.
What's baffling his that his wife doesn't seem like the kind of person who'd take any of his crap. And yet she answers to his every request and never says a word when he says sexist shit.
Again, there are far worse people out there who beat their wives if they make more money or (name horrible misogynist thing here). There are plenty of men I would want to slap for how they treat women. But this one's actually in my life and he's probably not going anywhere. So how to I keep myself from throwing hot coffee in his face when he asks me to make him some 5 seconds after I've sat down to enjoy and he's standing in the kitchen?
2 comments:
Tell him to get it his damn self. I have zero patience for that kind of stuff.
And the fact that he told your man to get his balls back tells me he is clearly a miserable human being. Why else would he purposefully try to bring your man down like that?
PS - the security word verification thingy that blogger gave me to post my comment is 'mating'. Ironic, no?
Oh I most certainly did tell him to get it himself. To which he wined "But you just made John coffee". Yes, because John was fixing me a sandwich! So I made the coffee. Then we both sat down and the guy wanted me to get up for him. Uh, no.
I am pretty sure he'll always be a 12 year old boy.
Mating is good. lol. blogger is reading my posts!
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