It used to be very easy to hate Valentine's Day. If I was single I could band together with all the other miserable single people and hate a day that was made for people in love. But still, I always knew, and mentioned in my rants, that things wouldn't be a while lot different if I wasn't single.
You see, my real problem with Valentine's Day is that it has become this stereotypical thing you must do. You must give/get a dozen roses, boxes of chocolates, and possibly little candy hearts. It is the most romantic day of the year, so if you're going to propose it'd be a good day to do it. I disagree.
For Valentine's Day I get lilies, not because you have to give flowers and be romantic but because they are one of the things in this world that I don't get every day and that makes me incredibly happy. I'm pretty sure Heaven smells like lilies all the time. Everyone gets roses, and I'm sure some people get lilies too. But I don't get them because everyone else does, but because that is what I want. And no to the chocolate- well the ones that come in those heart shaped boxes. I hate those. And if I was proposed to on Valentine's Day, I would say no.
I guess the thing is that it has become far too cliche. Yes, I celebrate Valentine's Day because it is nice to have a day in the middle of the awfulness of winter to go out and have a good time with my boyfriend. But we make it special in our own way rather that have people tell us what to do.
And about the proposing thing-it should be done in a way that is meaningful to your relationship. Valentine's Day is not inherently romantic. Feb 14 is not a day that just magically has romance floating through the air. You have to create it. So why not do it on a day that is special for you. There will be a lot more magical romance in the air on, for example, the day and location of your first date, than Vday. Unless your first date was on valentine's Day, in which case go right ahead and get engaged.
Ok, that's all I have this year. Vday is cliche, but it is perfectly reasonable to make it special and just be thankful that there are sales on flowers. hehe.
And for the record, this year John did get me my lilies, I got him a book about zombies. And we're going out to dinner some time this weekend. But I had class on Thursday and I've been fighting a cold, so it's just living right now.