Last weekend I went orienteering! It's probably wise for me to advise other women not to go off into the woods with a guy you barely know and wander around with a compass and no trail. That just sounds like the setup for a horror movie. But this guy and I had been on a few dates and I was pretty sure he wasn't going to kill me. So we went off to Prince William Forest Park, got a compass and a map, and headed out.
Let's just say I should brush up on my compass skills. I made Chris do all the work cause 1) He said he knew what he was doing and 2) I was forcing him to take charge (more on that later). Well we ended up starting off going the wrong way but figured that out and started over. We only found I think 2 of the 4 markers we tried to find, but we did make it out alive. The one I swear had to be somewhere really close because everything on the map matched, but we just didn't see a marker. We pretended it was where we were standing and still made it to the next marker so obviously we weren't far off. Anyway, it was a lot of fun. I hadn't hiked in awhile and this was a good 3 hour journey.
As far as the boy, I think that Chris and I will just be friends. That always opens itself up to possibility, but I'm not really in any rush to, well, rush things. He's a really nice guy, we had fun, we enjoy a lot of the same things. He just doesn't seem that interested and with everything that's been going on the last few months I may not be either. Or I am just really bothered by the fact that he can't take charge and I'm letting that get in the way of figuring out if he's actually interested.
Email "I'll call you later to finalize plans."
Phone *chit-chat* *pause......*
Me "So Saturday. Hiking?"
C "Yeah." *pause....*
Me "Anytime better for you?"
C "Maybe afternoon?"
Me "Ok, I'm free whenever so pick a time"
Really, he was calling to set up plans but I had to keep nudging him along. Guys, if you want to ask someone out try something like "Hey, how's Saturday at 2?" and see what happens. Do not make me basically ask you out. Especially since we had already established we were going, just needed a time.
I may be overreacting a bit, but at some point I need a guy who's going to take charge. That's just the way I am. Sure, I am plenty willing to be the planner every once in awhile, but I've tried the shy-guy thing and it doesn't work for me. This is just the most recent example from him.
